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“How badly do you want to get into recovery?”

Fraser Trevor

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Title: “How badly do you want to get into recovery?”
Author: Fraser Trevor
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You've probably heard this “motivational” question before: “How badly do you want it?” As in: “How badly do you want to get into rec...

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 You've probably heard this “motivational” question before: “How badly do you want it?” As in: “How badly do you want to get into recovery?” “How badly do you want your relationship with you to work?” “How badly do you want to have peace and serenity in your life?” The idea being: if you “want” something badly enough, you’re gonna make it happen. In my experience: that’s not quite how it works. As a former addict who spent years “wanting” a better life — but not actually doing much to create it — I know that “desire” doesn’t always translate into “action.” In order to turn desire into action, you need a mental and emotional turnaround, first. You gotta take specific stages to resolve whatever trauma is holding you back from making progress — and believe me, we've all got our “trauma.” From getting screamed at by your 2nd grade teacher, to being teased for being fat, skinny, nerdy or gay, to surviving physical abuse, we’ve all been through “something.” Until you permanently resolve your “something” and detox the emotional residue from your system? Progress is always going to be difficult — or nonexistent. No matter how badly you want it.

“How badly do you want to get into recovery?”

You've probably heard this “motivational” question before: “How badly do you want it?” As in: “How badly do you want to get into recovery?” “How badly do you want your relationship with you to work?”…

16 Sep 2015

Have you ever had a “reality challenge” from someone you liked and respected, a lot?

Fraser Trevor

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Title: Have you ever had a “reality challenge” from someone you liked and respected, a lot?
Author: Fraser Trevor
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Have you ever had a “reality challenge” from someone you liked and respected, a lot? Maybe they made an observation about your life, or ...

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Have you ever had a “reality challenge” from someone you liked and respected, a lot?  Maybe they made an observation about your life, or “called you out” for clinging to a particular excuse when you’re capable of so much more.  We don’t always “enjoy” these little wake-up jolts. Sometimes, the truth can be painful. But from time to time? We all need a reality challenge. We need people to hold us to a higher standard of behaviour — or else we tend to fall short of our potential.  You were born to be happy, to be healthy, and to contribute to the world in a meaningful way. That’s what your child within wishes for you -- and yes, will even support you in your happiness.  You might be a manicurist. You might be a unemployed. You might a mental health problem,  you may be addicted to a substance or a behaviour, life coach, a yoga teacher or the director of a meditation centre.  
 No matter what you do (or dream of doing), you have skills and abilities that can make your child within s life better.  Now here’s the part that might be tough to hear:  It is our  responsibility — as a human being — to bring our skills and abilities to communicate with the support of others our child within.  It is our  responsibility to relearn to communicate with our child within to release our childs intuitive voice at the highest possible level, helping people, teaching people, inspiring people, at every possible opportunity.  If you hold back — by hiding, procrastinating, giving just 80% of your capacity, or refusing to contact your child within — you are essentially stealing from the people who need you most.   theft of our peace, our serenity our unlimited potential.  That’s what it is.  Tough to hear — but true.  We know that whatever you are currently doing in your world the potential for your liberation is here today

Have you ever had a “reality challenge” from someone you liked and respected, a lot?

Have you ever had a “reality challenge” from someone you liked and respected, a lot? Maybe they made an observation about your life, or “called you out” for clinging to a particular excuse when you’r…

16 Sep 2015